Get Out of Your Own Way:Finding your Heart in Art

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     On Monday, I heard this: “Get out of your own way!”  My own way that’s what it is!  It is me that is stopping me.  It is me that speaks doubt into my own heart, even as I encourage others.   It is me that tells myself, “You aren’t good enough.  You know you […]

The Rest In-Between

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“Music is not in the notes, but rather in the silence in-between.”  Amadeus Mozart The space in-between.  I’ve been a mother for 25 years, and just this week, I realized that my mothering days have mostly spent in-between something.   Some of those days were perfectly wonderful, yet other days were edgy and uncomfortable. What […]

It’s about Motivation (even with a Fancy-Schmancy name)

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I just love it when I discover that I’ve doing something that really has a ‘fancy-schmancy’ name.  Somehow, I feel validated…dare I say, important?   What I’m talking about is called the “Self-Determination Theory.” It was coined by two psychologists,  Richard Ryan and Edward Deci. I promise not to toss a bunch of esoteric psycho-theory […]

Where? will music find your child.

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I was a kicker.  No, girls weren’t allowed to play football in the 80’s, nor did my rural school in Kansas didn’t offer soccer.   But, as a little girl, I distinctly remember sitting at the piano bench.  I wore a handmade dress and black patent leather Mary Janes, knee socks to match.  My long […]

Rewards…Going beyond $$$

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re·ward rəˈwôrd/ noun –  a thing given in recognition of one’s service, effort, or achievement. I recently spoke at a teacher training course at an Arts School.   Of course, the age-old question popped up:  “How do you get kids to practice?”   “Yup, there it is,” I thought to myself.   Really, I don’t have […]

Momentum. Keep moving forward.

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You don’t have to understand it all to take the next step.  You don’t.  You really don’t.  In life.  In piano lessons. Why do we think we have to have it all figured out before we move on?  I challenge you in this belief.  Take piano lessons, for instance.  Sometimes your student comes to lessons […]

Say It! Being real meets being kind.

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Me: “What goals would you like to work towards? What do you need to improve upon?” Susie Student: “I’m pretty good at everything.” Me: “But what would you like to do even better?” Susie: “I don’t know… what do you think I don’t do very well?” Me:.… awkward silence… and then realizing I feel very […]

It Takes Two…Generations

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So you are not a musical parent?  No worries.  As a parent, are you overwhelmed with all the things I might take for granted of you along the way?  I understand.  As time passes, you’ll become an expert at supporting your child’s music education. But, until then, here are 10 absolute basics to keep in […]